Gratitude in Real Life: Moving Beyond Challenges

Kahurangi H
3 min readJan 26, 2024

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In my last post, I talked about how I tripped on cobblestones and busted my knees open. As I sit on my bed, wincing in pain with every stretch and bend of my legs, it’s hard to find a silver lining in the situation (although I’m relieved I didn’t face plant directly on the curb).

As much as tripping sucked, it taught me some things about gratitude that I wanted to share with you.

The first thing I realized is something I mentioned yesterday and that is gratitude does not mean ignoring or avoiding negative emotions or feelings.

It may seem counterintuitive to say but I don’t feel you need to be grateful for every situation — some things just suck. That doesn’t mean things will always suck, when you develop a gratitude mindset, you learn to address negative feelings that arise and how to move past them because it becomes easier to address and reframe your thoughts.

When we ground ourselves in gratitude we build a deeper sense of resilience, one goes beyond simply keeping it together and white-knuckling through life, hoping things will get better. We keep going because we KNOW they can and we BELIEVE they will,

This realization has meant that I’m not going between the extremes of pretending I’m fine and the fall happened for a reason and giving into the dark side because why bother? Everything is shit anyway, Instead, I’m tending to my physical and emotional wounds with the belief that everything will be okay.

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I feel that my view of gratitude has become more nuanced. Here are some of my key takeaways from the last couple of days:

Realism in Gratitude

Gratitude doesn’t mean pretending everything is perfect or denying the existence of challenges. It involves acknowledging and addressing the difficulties without overlooking them.

Mindset Shift

‘Gratitude creates a mind-shift that allows you to navigate through tough situations with a positive perspective. It doesn’t ignore problems but enables us to reframe our focus toward the positive aspects of life.

Deeper Resilience

Gratitude contributes to a deeper resilience that goes beyond mere endurance. It involves a profound belief that things can and will get better. This belief fosters a sense of hope and optimism even in challenging times.

Moving Forward

Instead of just pushing through difficulties, gratitude provides a foundation for moving forward with the belief that improvement is possible. It’s not about hoping for change but actively knowing and believing in the potential for positive outcomes.

I feel that my new view of gratitude has provided me with a valuable lesson that can have a positive impact on my overall well-being and how I approach life’s challenges.

If this article has helped you, I would love to hear how you plan to apply this newfound understanding of gratitude in your day-to-day experiences.

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Kahurangi H

An author passionate about personal growth, mindfulness, and spirituality. Join me on a journey of exploration and empowerment! 💖